Bella and Edward love each other????

Wait….why do Bella and Edward ‘love’ each other????
I really don’t get it. Maybe I’m a cynic, but I just don’t think you can fall in love at first sight because love isn’t about appearance. It’s about trust, respect, and communication. I don’t really see this in the Bedward pairing. I’ve read the entire series and I have read Twilight a couple of times and I don’t see why Bella loved Edward or vice versa. One, they besides them both liking music (who the hell doesn’t like some type of music?) they have nothing in common. For those of you say ‘they are destined’ well then love is undermined. Love is about choice. You don’t chose who you fall in love with but you do chose who you stay in love with. When you have a fight with someone you chose to go back or you don’t. You chose to accept them as they are or you don’t. Love is a choice. Claiming that Edward and Bella are destined to be with one another is undermining free will which is essential to love.
I am also offended when Edward says in Eclipse that Sam and Emily love each other ‘almost’ as much as he loves Bella. Number one, Sam and Emily is a forced ‘destine’ union like yours so it’s not love and number two comparing your love to other peoples is a sign of insecurity and general ignorance.
Now let’s get to the heart of the matter. Bella is initially attracted to Edward because of his appearance-which isn’t a bad thing but it is if that’s the reason why you’re in love with someone. They don’t share any values or common interest and no Bella is NOT mature. As a seventeen year old I take offence when someone says Bella is mature. No really she’s not. She disrespects her father constantly, doesn’t have any real friends outside of Edward and when she does befriend Jacob she strings him along for selfish reasons. She complains constantly like a whiney bitch about living in Forks when she made the decision to move! She then gets married at 18 and then gets pregnant. Does this sound mature? I don’t think so and there are many more examples.
Now onto Edward being ‘in love’ with Bella. You expect me to believe that this guy goes like 100+ years without being attracted to anyone and then he just falls for oh so special Bella? Yeah I don’t buy it. The only reason for Edwards interest is because he can’t hear Bella (probably because she’s mind numbingly stupid) and she smells good. That’s a really deep relationship there. Also Edward is jealous and non trusting to an almost pathological degree. I’ve come to the conclusion that Edward and Bella are not in love. There in love with the idea of love. They project their desire to be in love with someone onto each other. Here are some differences between being truly in love and being in love with the idea of love.
1. You care about the other's person's life and the details of his or her life. Again, you don't live in a fantasy and just talk romantic, you find out what they do, how they feel, what's going on in their heads, with their families, their work, etc.
- Everything they talk about suddenly turns into some big romantic lovey dovey purple prose. They make everything out to be romantic and real love can’t carry on like that. It gets really exhausting.
2. You put the other person's needs and wants above your own. Unconditional love is the foundation of being in love. Lust is not love. Infatuation is not love. If all you do is think about having sex with this other person, and don't really care to make them a part of your life and you a part of theirs, then you're in love with love, not the other person.
- Does anyone remember how Bella went on for four books about wanting to get laid?
3. You pay attention to how they make you feel and how you make them feel. You're sensitive to not jumping to the wrong conclusion. There is trust. There is understanding. There is a real connection that isn't threatened either by the past, present or future. The relationship is secure...not one of ups and downs continually based on whether or not they call, write or show up on time.
-About the wrong conclusions thing, Bella always assumes Edward can’t ‘love’ her as much as she ‘loves’ him.
-Edward doesn’t trust Bella with Jacob. He doesn’t understand her feelings. Apparently their ‘destined’ romance connects them to a past, present, and future.
4. You actually like them, not just love and want them. Many times people who are in love with love do not even LIKE the person they've "attached their in love feelings to." If you spend half your time trying to change the other person, you don't really love them. You love yourself and are trying to make them fit your idea of perfect. Acceptance is a big part of true love.
-‘ Bella I don’t like Jacob so don’t hang out with him.’ ‘Bella your breakable we need to change this.’
You do not consider yourself better or worse than the one you love. You continually strive to be at one and at unity with the one you love, but many times it happens naturally because of the connection you share. There is nothing fake about the relationship.- This is one of the biggest points. A ‘love’ that makes you feel less than or superior is NOT a healthy relationship to have. Bella always feels less superior to Edward and Edward even says as much and encourages this when he goes on and on and on and on about how he could out run her, and kill her and how his perfect features enamor him.
You don't pretend to like what they like to make them believe you're like them. Why would you do that anyway? Being in love with love often causes people to lose their identity and try to be like the other person. When you're in love with the other person, each one respect's each other's hobbies and interests without forcing themselves to be like the other person.
-Bella has no life outside of Edward and Edward doesn’t have a life outside of Bella. Bella is always begging to be a vampire to be more like Edward and his family. Edward doesn’t like the fact that Bella likes riding motorcycles. He even tries to force his way into this hobby even though he likes cars not motorcycles.
It really seems that Edward and Bella’s love is based on their love of the emotion of love and lust rather than deep, meaningful, unconditional love. If this were real life instead of the puke worthy ‘and they lived happily ever after bit’ we got from Breaking Wind, Bella would be a clichéd version of her mother. She would be stuck with her kid and divorced because lush burns and consumes until there is nothing left and love based on that cannot last.